When You Feel Like You’re “Not Okay” During College
By: Cassie Brenner
1. It’s Okay to Cry!
This is #1 on the list for a reason: everyone needs a good cry at some point! Whether you’re feeling homesick, overwhelmed or anything else whatsoever, cry! Crying is actually known for reducing stress through the hormone chemicals in your tears, and it can help reduce both emotional and physical pain. It also helps self-soothe so that your body can rest. Grab those tissues and feel better!
2. It’s Okay to Ask for Help
College was literally invented to help you succeed. Professors, advisors and classmates are all key tools to learning, whether that is figuring out your future, your schedule or your classes. These people are either paid to know how to assist you in college, or they are going through the same situations and dilemmas that you are. Not to mention, there are countless other resources that campuses have that specialize in areas like math, writing and tons more.
3. It’s Okay to Rest
MENTAL HEALTH IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS PHYSICAL HEALTH. Just thought I’d reiterate how necessary it is to take care of yourself, in all ways. Most campuses also offer mental health resources or have professionals you can talk to at any time. Even if you don’t think you need a therapist, it can still help you feel better to talk to one. If you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious, or if you don’t even know how you feel, they are there to help you. Don’t forget: you are never alone.
4. It’s okay to take time for yourself.
It’s okay to cancel plans or take a night off. Almost everyone needs alone time to recharge and recuperate. If you need to get stuff done, make a to-do list. Even if it’s just a list with everyday tasks such as doing your laundry, vacuuming or washing the dishes, try it out. Every bullet point you get to check off will bring feelings of satisfaction and relief. If you need to take a step back, getting off campus or simply going outside can help you gain a new perspective and appreciation. You could even try activities that are healthy for both your mind and your body, like exercising, meditation or yoga.
5. It’s okay to take it slow.
Not everyone graduates in four years, and you don’t need to either. College is a place where everyone learns and grows at their own pace. It never turns out how you might think it “should.” There is no time for comparing yourself to others. You are on your own journey and creating your own, personal path. If you need to take a break between semesters, or even take only two classes per semester, then do that. You just have to figure out what is best for you.